It has been a while since my last blog, and it is because I had back-to-back events! From now on I will try to post every other Sunday! Summer is around the corner which means everyone is getting their summer bodies all ready to go! I thought that I would make this week’s blog on all the insecurities that come along with summer and how we can work to overcome them!
Have you ever worn something and felt like you did not look good, or seen a friend and thought, “wow they look so perfect, I wish I looked like that?” Well, it is quite normal to think this way because everyone has their own set of insecurities. When I was little, I played with one of the most popular and beautiful dolls: Barbie. She was beautiful, skinny, blonde/brunette, had the perfect eyes, the perfect outfits, was tall, and was loved by all. Now that I am seventeen, I’ve finally realized that yes, she’s beautiful, popular, tall, and skinny but she’s also plastic with no real emotions and feelings so she can be whoever you want her to be. Despite all of this, Barbie is deemed perfect. But what really is perfect? Who gets to set the standards for what perfection really is? Should we let go of ourselves and let society decide on how we act and look? We try so hard to be something that is unrealistic. Instead, what we need to understand is that we are all perfect with our imperfections and that flaws make everybody unique.
So, what is perfection? Perfect, according to the Oxford English Dictionary, is described as having all the required or desirable elements, qualities, or characteristics as good as it is possible to be. Free from any flaw or defect in condition or quality; faultless. Now if we are going off of this definition, NOTHING and NO ONE is perfect. Even a piece of paper can give you a paper cut so why do we obsess over perfection? Social media and society are responsible for the obsession over perfection; maybe because no one can truly achieve it. People want to be accepted; they want to feel as if they belong. We associate happiness with materialistic things when really, we should be trying to better the relationships we have with ourselves and others.
If God made everyone the same looking, we would be identical, boring! Everyone and everything has flaws; it’s what makes us stand out in front of everyone else. I have never felt perfect and to be honest with you, I never will. This is because the standards I have set for myself are simply unrealistic and I feel that I am not the only one who does this. I am not saying that setting goals & high standards for yourself are bad because it’s not. All I’m saying is that set your standards-based off on what YOU as an individual choose to achieve for yourself not based on social media! We are all on the same damn boat trying to row our way down perfection lane, but the truth is, it doesn’t really exist. This summer let’s try to break these gender norms and promote body positivity. Let this be the beginning of believing that an individual’s beauty comes from their imperfections. Girls, boys, men, women, gays, theys, and everyone who has air in their lungs and blood pumping through their veins, YOUR flaws are what make YOU unique and beautiful; never forget that:)